What things as a parent do you do that you thought you’d never do?
Goodness!, and aren’t those things rather embarrassing to admit much less on the world-wide-web? They really are not hip. Most cases we are afraid of what others might think of our parenting abilities.
Hopefully if I share several of my secrets it will encourage your secrets not to feel so humiliating or shameful. It may even make you laugh!
Who can live in an idealist, perfect world that we build in our minds? Not, me. I fall short so many times. If you feel shamed by some of the things you do -> you suffer not alone.
Perhaps you don’t struggle with what I do or maybe you do but with a different unique twist all your own. That’s ok. You are not wrong in your journey. We are all writing different stories testifying to God’s working in our lives. We grow and change and struggle in the midst of it all. Yes, struggle.
Here is my
“Gasp! You do that?!”
– couple of things that plague my mind.
1. Wearing a onesie on my big 15 month old
My Fear: others will think I dress my child poorly. I think he looks too big to being wearing such ‘baby clothes’. I think onesies on a big boy like Gavin look sorta girly – like a bathing suit :p
My expectation: my child has to look 100% stylin’ ALL-THE-TIME
My reality: we got the clothes, let’s wear it! Eventually he’ll outgrow it, right?
#2 Let him watch movies
My fear: he’ll have ADHHHHHHD (emphasis on the hyper part) and be this energized terror
My expectation: I was NOT going to let my child watch movies – at least until he was 2 (like smart doctors recommend).
My reality: it bothers me and every time I intentionally sit him in front of a screen I feel a twinge of guilt, albeit, he likes movies.
What do you struggle with as a mother?
What are secrets you hide away, too shammed to share.
We are not perfect. Each of us has an ideal of perfectionism in our minds. Yet, we easily let that dictate our conversations, actions and decisions, collapsing in many different scenes when expectations are shattered.
I don’t think Jesus meant for us to live in fear. Our secrets and expectations which we judge ourselves by freeze us from living in freedom.
Don’t you think Jesus wants us to be free – freely dancing with him on this journey of motherhood. Free to be who it is that God has created us to be and not held captive by the fears of others.
Let’s let God fill our minds and not fear of what others may think. Let’s let Jesus be our “whatever is true, noble, right, pure, lovely, admirable (and) think about such things.” (Philippians 4:8) Let’s embrace who we are as individual unique ladies mothering our kiddos and seek God’s direction along the way – not others opinions.
Let’s let the truth of what God thinks about us be our motivation.
It’s what I want.
How about you?
“Our soul was tailor-made to be filled with God and his truth; therefore it seeps into every part of us and fills us completely. It is the only perfect fit.” – Lysa TerKeurst