Day 9 in a Write 31 Day Series
A bunch of years ago I was part of a lab group that shared, listened and cared deeply. It was intense. It was mentally stretching. It set me on a course that caused me to think differently ever since.
Right out of the gate I was more in-tuned to conversation around me. I picked up rapidly on what people were really saying. Including what I was saying. It intimidated me a bit that others would be reading into my words as much as I was into theirs. Could people hear what I was really saying??
Time has lapsed now. I am not as sensitive as I once was. I know I miss opportunities to be an intentional listener every day.
If I really listen to what others are saying, they are giving clues to their very hearts. They are letting us in on secrets about themselves. If only we listen. Really listen.
LISTENING can help to RESPOND better. Respond intentionally. Instead of saying, “Oh, I know what you mean. I do blah, blah, blah” and turning the conversation on you, which truthfully isn’t want they were wanting by saying what they said in the first place. All to easily we turn the conversation back around to what we think or know or have gone through. But is that what they are wanting? To hear our autobiography?
Are you really HEARING?
I know for me, when I’m nervous or don’t know what to say I just start talking about whatever is running through my brain – usually about myself. And, that is so not listening intentionally. Why can’t I just be quiet.
Is is ok to be quiet? To offer air space? To linger in silence? The mystery. The unknown. Silence is a huge communicator. It’s not appearing stupid or dumb or make you look more insecure. I have a theory it makes you look quite the opposite… (Just watch my husband)
Silence might give the Holy Spirit a chance to move.
Silence might allow you to see their heart.
Silence might birth a vision for them in you.
Silence might give the other person a chance to think and maybe come to a conclusion on their own.
And you helped by just giving them the space to think in front of you. Does that sound like caring to you? Is that being intentional? Purposely biting your tongue to let the Spirit move? Hushing our hearts. Being still and quite. Listening.
I want that.
I want the Spirit to move in me.
I want to be a better mother.
And better friend.
I want to be intentional.
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