Rising early was paying off and it was a productive, hustle kinda morning that Monday. You might say I was very house-wifey and purpose-driven as I checked things off from my to-do list for the week that forenoon. I was very satisfied.
“I love getting up early,” I told myself. This is a new truth I’ll tell you about later.
Assuming my 6 month pregnant body would be exhausted by noon I was surprised after Gavin was down for his nap to find myself planning to watch some TED Talks I’d been eyeing. Sleep wasn’t foreclosing in yet it seemed.
Naturally, I lay down only to check my e-mail, check my Amazon order and open my online library app… You know, doing everything else but what I wanted to do or should be doing. Then suddenly,
My phone set on vibrate lit up.
My friend texted me. What’s she doing today, I wondered? I texted back:
>>Trying to 😉 what are you up to?
>Sorry. Never mind was just going to swing in…
Now I had a choice to make.
Do you know where I’m going with this? The struggle is real. I could, a) take care of myself and respect my napping boundaries (because I knew I was going to be tired if not now, later), or
b) tell her to stop by. What the heck, it’s not every day I get to see her. I’ll just squeeze in sleeping later.
One loud voice inside me really wanted to not be bothered. I was settled on the couch with my laptop and had my plans – watch TED Talks, sleep. When do I ever do this? Like, never! She was not included in my schedule.
The other voice was saying, yes! It reminded me of another friend I admire who always drops everything she’s doing when I just randomly stop in on her (and I don’t even text her in advance) which I love about her. I always wished I was more like that – more go-with-the-flow-y. Here was my opportunity to be the kind of person I wanted to be.
I informed myself that I wasn’t tired and I wanted to see her. I grabbed my phone before I could chicken out on myself.
>Oh you can stop by! I’d love to see you
>>Ok see ya in 3
The nice thing about text messages is that you can write anything and the recipient doesn’t know the mood you’re in.
For me, the hardest part about interruptions is that they interrupt my day.
If I wasn’t so wrapped up tight perfecting my little world, I tell myself…
Now I’m not saying you need to sacrifice your time and schedule and naps every time. Maybe some of you actually need more practice at closing the front door. But aren’t there those times in between where you really could make it work with some careful evaluation?
If I ask myself what I really want. The answer is always relationships. I want friendships and a life invested in people. That’s who I want to be. How about when the opportunity presents itself, instead of recanting because it’s not in the schedule – stop and think it through.
For me, what mattered most was that I took time to process my decision. That was huge. The other option (and what I have a tendency to do) is blow right through the moment, ignore the text message or tell my friend I’m sleeping because I have a schedule to keep. This does not take time to listen to what my heart has room for and honor what it really wants.
What I’m getting at, in case it’s a bit muddled, sorry folks, is take time to think about how you handle interruptions, if you’re the perfectionist type like me in the area of your time and schedule, then prayerfully consider accepting an interruption every now and then. Yes, this was hard for me… but what if?
Maybe this seems too simple for you or too melodramatic even. Honoring my soul and listening to what it really wanted in the moment made me fully alive that afternoon. I could receive a friend that moment. And I’m all the more richer for it.
Jesus is all about relationships. (Prob 8:17, John 3:16, Jere 31:3) He is all about the people he created and spending time with them. We were created for each other; for connection. It’s no wonder my soul cries out for it.
Next time you’re faced with an interruption, take time to process it. Think it through. Take time to think about what your soul really wants and needs in the moment and what it wants as the end result.
And then listen to it.
> How do you handle interruptions?
>Have you ever sacrificed your schedule for someone?
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